“The trick is to enjoy life. Don’t wish away your days, waiting for better ones ahead.”― Marjorie Pay Hinckley
We all want to enjoy life, but what does that really mean?
Everybody has different views about what constitutes an enjoyable life. For some it may be a holiday or other types of leisurely activities.
Alternatively, if you Google search: “How to enjoy life,” there is a multitude of diverse ideas to consider. Examples include:
- Practice Gratitude.
- Work on Mindfulness.
- Put Yourself First.
- Be Kind to Yourself.
- Make Time to Relax.
- Celebrate Small Wins.
- Invest in Yourself.
- Nurture Positive Relationships.
- Get Rid of Clutter
- Spend Money on Experiences, Not Possessions.
- Spend Time in Nature
The list goes on and on. Many are worthy causes. However, most ask of us to incorporate a new habit or do something different from the norm to enjoy life.
Why should this be?
Is there not a more readily accessible way for us to find enjoyment in life each and every day?
“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.” Jim Rohn
The good news is yes! – There are always opportunities to find enjoyment each and every day.
Sometimes it’s right in front of you. Yet, for whatever reason, we are unable to shift our attention to notice and appreciate it.
We tend to hold a false belief that enjoyment is to be found in future oriented relaxation activities. Yet the reality is life’s enjoyments aren’t locked up the things we want to do.
While we’re waiting in hope for the next big thing that will give us the enjoyment we seek we are missing the pleasures of life that are happening all around us 24/7.
Rather than spending our time thinking about the future and how we might get to enjoy our free time we can adopt a more radical different approach.
Regardless of what is going on around us, we can find enjoyment in any given moment. We just need to remember to shift our focus and the way you think.
The Solution to the Problem can be found in the Present Moment
“The great science to live happily is to live in the present.” Pythagoras
What’s perceived as a vision of how we can enjoy life seems to have little to do with the way we actually spend each and every day. It’s portrayed as if something is missing. There’s a gap that needs to be filled that will fix the problem.
Yet, in reality maybe nothing is missing. Maybe those things we do each and every day can be a source enjoyment.
You’ve heard it said time and time again. It’s important to live in the present moment. It’s the solution to the problem.
This all sounds fantastic, but what does it actually mean to “live in the present moment?”
Living in the present moment means no longer worrying about what happened in the past and not fearing or hoping for what will happen in the future. It simply means enjoying what’s happening now and living for today.
Choosing not to live in the present ultimately robs us of the enjoyment of today. Alternatively, by intentionally choosing to be 100% present with whatever we are going we learn to appreciate those subtle moments that are happening amid the mundane tasks that we get to experience every day.
So could those life’s menial tasks we begrudge such as laundry, office work, the dishes or food shopping then become a source of small pleasures?
A simple Intention
“The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness.”- Abraham Maslow
Typically, the tasks we do during a typical day are not viewed as activities of enjoyment. They are viewed as an obstacle we need to overcome before we can engage in more enjoyable pleasures.
But how life changing would it be if we could find a way to make these mundane tasks less annoying and unpleasant in some way?
Is it possible to find enjoyment from standing in line at the supermarket, sweeping the floors, or sitting in traffic?
The key is finding the intention. A simple intention to not resist or begrudge our experience. An intention to enjoy the task or experience before you, no matter how dull it may seem at first, is enough to illuminate its enjoyable qualities.
Looking for enjoyment in mundane moments is no more dissimilar a practice than “Looking for the good in people.” Both offer a unique way of seeking the positivity in any moment.
The pleasures you find may be slight, however the intention to find them makes a radical difference to how it feels to do virtually anything.
The real transformative effect isn’t in the subtle pleasures you can find when you look. It’s in the different way we’re directing our minds in those mundane moments to look into our experience, rather than looking outwards from it.
Many people spend their days looking forward to an upcoming event or ruminating over ones from the past. However, the best way to enjoy the time that you’re in now is to focus your attention on what is actually happening during the moment.
3 simple Tips to always remember when Practicing Living in the Present Moment:
1. Don’t waste your valuable time by constantly looking forward to the future.
2. Focus exclusively on what’s happening here and now in the present moment.
3. Use your ambitions for the future as motivators, but don’t let those future thoughts interfere with what you need to do in the here and now.
Take Away Message
Living in the moment can help us find enjoyment by making the most out of our life, day by day, week by week, and year by year.
Those everyday chores and mundane tasks are an inevitable part of daily living. Often we go about doing them with a feeling of resentment, wishing we were somewhere else doing something much more fun.
However the reality is these chores cannot be avoided. They are part of life. So stop resisting and choose to take a different perspective so that you can enjoy them more.